Under Spiritual Law, if you want help you must ask for it.
The Law of Request teaches us to ask when our souls are ready, with clarity and intention. It is our personal responsibility to ask for the things we need in our lives.
With the Law of Request, we are NOT to impose ourselves upon others. If you push yourself upon someone who hasn’t asked for your help prevent them from sorting out their own situation for themselves, hindering their own learning process. Also, when you force your help or advice on to someone, you bear the karma if it goes wrong.
It is considered bad manners to rush in uninvited and most likely your help will be ignored or unappreciated. Of course, if someone is drowning you help! You guide the blind and comfort the sick and bereaved. However, if you feel upset by the mess someone has got themselves into, it is your stuff. It is an indication that you need to look at yourself rather than rescue someone else.